Grief due to tragedy and loss can be extremely painful, and almost more than one can bear. It is very important to have support and to not be alone if possible in order to find comfort in getting through the natural process of mourning. Grief proceeds in stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. When a loss occurs, the first reaction is shock and disbelief. Next, when it seems that the loss is inevitable, anger, as if one is being cornered, sets in, often followed by a last-ditch effort of desperate bargaining (as in pleading with God). When the loss begins to sink in, depression coincides with increased awareness. Finally, after allowing oneself to fully reconcile with the sadness and pain of loss, one can reach acceptance.
When loss is accompanied by a trauma, additional difficulties may be encountered. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (acute and typical) are syndromes in which people commonly experience reliving of the event (vivid, intrusive memories), recurrent nightmares, intense anxiety, social withdrawal, and distrust. People who have been traumatized can benefit from finding safety and relief in the support of others who are truly caring and understanding. Without such assistance, the aftereffects can prolong suffering and lead to complications, such as substance abuse and conflictual relationships.
Support of family and friends can comfort in times of need. Likewise, grief counseling can help by giving you a safe place and to deal with your feelings over a loss.
Help begins with a phone call.
Cognitive Therapy Associates (CTA) is a network of experienced therapists across NYC, Westchester and L.I. We strive to match you with the right therapist for you, to help you to effectively manage and resolve issues related to grief and loss. To inquire about an appointment, please call us at (212) 258-2577.
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